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Saturday, 9 May 2009

Making the most of it

"Cancer is a bitch,
If it were a person
It should be mauled to death!"
- ME!

Cancer is a freaking bitch! Puta!

So I was watching re-runs of Oprah's old shows, as far back as 1997, where she had these families of cancer victims who made the most of their short lives, no thanks to cancer.

One woman, a wife and a mother of one daughter, was diagnosed with breast cancer when her daughter was maybe 4 or 5, not sure now. This woman, may her beautiful soul rest in peace, decided to prepare her young daughter for life, all the years she was going to miss on. She made video tapes of her telling her daughter what to do in situations, from mundane to serious. As mundane as "how to wear make-up", "what kind of guy to date", "going to first prom" to important things like "what to look for in a man", "how to treat dad's new girlfriend after mum's death" etc!

I cried! I could not help it.

She died but not before she prepared answers to her daughter's most likely questions as she grew without her. What wisdom!

Another woman wrote letters to her 13yr old son and 8yr old daughter, telling them awesome things about them and how she hoped to be able to hold them from time to time from the land beyond. The boy cried while reading one of the letters on the show.

These are women who probably never hurt a fly, but evil, vile, contemptuous cancer caught up with anyway! But that's not the point of this post, the point is that these women made the most of the little time they had left preparing a comfortable life for their loved ones without them in it. That is love, and living.

So many of us are alive and well, see our loved ones all the time, meet people we can reach out to everyday yet we ignore them! just assuming that there will always be other times to be kind.

I don't even know why I am typing this post right now, I had a gazillion other things to blog about but hey, my fingers are on their own right now.

Please make the most of your life, love deeply, live fully, forgive easily, kiss deeply, share freely, be kind, helpful and never forget anything that made u smile.

I'll have to come back to read this myself anytime I'm being a bitch...lol

Thank you bloggers for every smile, every tear, every word... the laughter, the friendship, for everything.

p.s.

I have not been diagnosed with cancer, neither am I dying my dear people ok?

MWAH!

63 comments:

Tigeress said...

1st?

Tigeress said...

I remember that particular episode- i wont front me sef cry. Why these things happen- i do not know. but we can ask God when we get to heaven.

Zena said...

It's so funny you touched on this..

I remember watching the show of the woman who taped herself, I cried as well.... It's funny because Cancer has hit close to home this time, and I think...did I ever tell him I loved him? Have I told my brother I care? How the I broach the subject with him without making the situation awkward?

You are right, life is too short

Afrobabe said...

First??

Afrobabe said...

Probably not..mchewww..

Afrobabe said...

awwww.I can imagine crying at that docmentary...watched one sometime past where school kids were held hostage and loads were shot in front of the survivors...I ried girl...I cried...

Confessions of a London gal said...

Yay i'm first!!
Glad to hear u're fine hun and there r times that we feel like this and want to blog about the touching things we see in real life...
I think that's real sweet- what those women did...? I think its real sweet- ONLY a strong and loving mother can do such.

Confessions of a London gal said...

oh ok, comment moderation, so maybe i'm 20th and just yayed 4 nothin! Lol

Moody Crab said...

Right now, I loving deeply without fear of tomorrow. I live for now. After reading the ALCHEMIST by Paul Coelho, I made a decision to try and live my life to the fullest. You'd be surprise know how difficiult it can be sometimes to do something that simple but I'll keep trying.

Beautiful post!

PS: Been a while sis. How're you doing?

Omotee! said...

FIrrrrrrrssssttttttttt!!!


No u wont have cancer, God's grace.

thanx for stopping by mine

cerberus said...

Soy primero....

Yup cancer is a puta.

Telekinesys said...

Lovely post. Well said.

ibiluv said...

i will maul it along with ya

i felt my tear ducts trying to misbehave just by reading your post.......whites are so brave

i dont see a naija mother preparing to die.......

InCogNaija said...

First!!
Really Touching...

Buttercup said...

I remember watching that episode where the mother made the video tapes..gosh..

stuff like this just puts things into perspective..*sighs*

scribble,me.free said...

first?

scribble,me.free said...

oh...damn approvals! anyway...well said

Temite said...

awwwww
Sis
We heart u too JOO!
XOXO

RocNaija said...

17 'firsts'
Smaragd you harsh sha.. :-D

Moving post..

OPTIMISTIC_alyzzz said...

also wrote a post on cancer, my is breast cancer month, hope all you ladies out there are doing self examination, its important and can save your life, dnt hesitate to go see a doctor, its better to know early.

NICE POST.

isha said...

This is a reality check for everyone. Thanks for this. True meaning of 'you don't miss the water till the well runs dry'.

Have a great week!

CaramelD said...

Gosh yes, Cancer is a bitch. It keeps getting people in my family. I am even running 5k marathon for Cancer Research in July because it has reached insult self.

Those women were so brave to focus on comforting their children and not losing themselves in their own despair.

Long time, where you sey since? x

O'Dee said...

Brave women.

I am waiting for my weekly installment o. Pls note that my cravings have changed to chicken burger.

FFF said...

thou speaketh to me, gurl






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Shubby Doo said...

you're right cancer is a bitch

Tigeress said...

See of dem claiming first. Hehehehe!!!

pls check out my blog http://thecounselorandherthots.blogspot.com/

Blog Critic said...

hi

Original Mgbeke said...

I love this post. Plus I've been reading a whole bunch of the 'Chicken soup' books so I'm on this whole trying to be a better person and living life to the fullest kick.
Thanks Smaragd. :-)

StandTall-The Activist said...

This is sad. To think that there is no place in the body that cancer cannot develop. It's a killer that has no cure but to kill.

Early detection helps in so many cases but I wish there wont be any cancer in the world

~Sirius~ said...

I can just imagine.

*sigh..........life is just full of all sorts.

With things like this, I can't help but think about the stupid times spent on irrelevant arguements with loved ones.

soupasexy said...

Thank God you are not dying of cancer o..i was worried..i kid!!
Cancer sure is a bitch!! puta!!

Nice Anon said...

My grand ma died from cancer and I know how much pain she went through. So yes cancer IS a fucking bitch!

aloted said...

hmmm...na true talk u talk..thanks for the wake up call..

NigerianDramaQueen said...

Yes, Cancer comes from the deepest darkest part of hell...I think I remember that Oprah episode.
But yes, we must always thank God for good health and make the best of life!

anonymous gal said...

ok so i read on oluwas blog that wr u said u are the babies bloggodmother...at all o we go fight

flabby said...

but why have u freed me nau?

uNWrItten* said...

na w aooo..stranger!!!!! how far babes..?? i miss u!
p.s...yes i am still a v card holder...lol dont judge me

Funms-the rebirth said...

awww my dear sister, i was off blogging for a while... of cuz i still wanna be ur sis, if u will have me...... :)

Tairebabs said...

This is so touching. Cancer is really a bitch! I try as much as possible to appreciate my loved ones more and let them know i love them.

blogoratti said...

That was very deep...thanks for sharing that!

Parakeet said...

Madam SMA, thank God you not affected o but I see where you coming from. We take things and pple for granted. If only we stop to think how priviledged we are to have them in the first place.

ManCee said...

"Make the most of your life, love deeply, live fully, forgive easily, kiss deeply, share freely, be kind, helpful and never forget anything that made u smile"

I'll drink to that.

ManCee said...

"Make the most of your life, love deeply, live fully, forgive easily, kiss deeply, share freely, be kind, helpful and never forget anything that made u smile"

I'll drink to that.

doll said...

my bf mother survived breast cancer..
People do..

Sexkitten said...

Hi lady. How are you? Did you receive my email? Sent one two or three days ago. Let me know...hope all is well.

cerberus said...

Sweeetness,
I'm finally doing the post on Kryptonite. Hope this brings you out of hiding.

MY

InCogNaija said...

ok madam, we have made the most of this post. lol!
Update please and you dare not talk about my update status neither! lol

uNWrItten* said...

seriously where are u??

anonymous gal said...

so where are u???u really shld update-i know shallow comin from me

LG said...

Babes kilode??? otojo meta, hope all is well

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Hope all is well.


NIGERIAN CURIOSITY
IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN I ONLY HAD ONE...

~Sirius~ said...

Have you abandoned us?!

LusciousRon said...

You ain't leaving too are you? Come back biko.

mizchif said...

SMAGRD, where are you???

doll said...

i watched that oprah's show...some time back...i cried too

Afrobabe said...

longest time sis..............

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

where are you? Hope all is well

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

just checking in on you. hope all is well.
NIGERIAN CURIOSITY
IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN I ONLY HAD ONE...

Shubby Doo said...

madame...since may? how far...kilode o! just come back if only to tell us u r ok...pls!

TinTin said...

bad things happen to good people..we just to be healthy and leave the rest to God!!

Pls where are u hiding?? can u puullleaaseee UPDATE!

thanx!

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

hey where are you hiding??????

Fasokun Omobolanle said...

You got me teary eyed... nice write though! welldone!

Bolanle Fasokun said...

Nice...